Commlink #54
Weekly Review
This week saw 100 reports collected from members of Community DAO in Nigeria. No joke! This is an incredible sweep, and we are a bit overwhelmed like a fisherman pulling a fish from the water that is too big for the boat. Indeed, we have reached the limits almost of Substack capacity itself and have made the decision to restrict the volume, here and going forward, so that we are able to effectively continue this project on its other facets, too.
Only 40 reports will be featured in this issue. From here on, we will also establish a stricter selection regimen based on consideration of style, merit, and substance. We are seeking sincere personal stories and self-expression. And while we give every entry attention, we must exercise editorial limitations in order to maintain a realistic publication. Priority will be given to reports that are turned in earlier in the week, but most of all, to original, unique experiences and demonstrations of personality.
And, even so, reports that are not chosen will still be held in a database for potential future publication. Payouts for those will occur within a week of whenever they may be published. If your report is not selected, therefore, it may just be because we ran out of room and not due to any lack of quality. So, remain in good spirits, and let’s keep growing!
We are quite excited about all of the interest in the project, especially from Nigeria. The book spearheaded by our Editor, Dr. Alina Okun, “Meet You in Calabar” is a testament to our continued interest in this region. It will be coming out soon!!! It is the first installment for other projects to come on these topics. Let’s refine our scope and work to improve. By being more selective, we encourage everyone to compete in a healthy way to be published first by standing out and doing the best that you can.
As we gain more assistance and interest, we can widen the opportunities to participate in Community DAO’s growing offerings. There are already many options for engagement besides writing reports, though that will continue to be a staple for Commlink, especially.
This week on the design front, we saw over 600 designs submitted for our weekly contests! Check out Evilra’s incredible spreadsheet indexing the works here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13OsSGKvWuHu-FfDNtriCjG79avGyTmp7r3cprbkl5Zw/edit#gid=2122615032
Advisement for this week continued to prep the County Fair vibe with a “Call For Carny Booth Operators.” Currently, we have 3 booths going - dice, go-fish, and duck-hunt, with three distinct booth operators. The word has gone out, however, and already we are seeing members line up to help circulate the C0MMtoken and C0MM NFTs. This is a special experiment in deeper engagement and also a way to market our brand. The more asset distribution we have going on between members, the higher we rise on the overall Ravencoin blockchain. This will bring in more attention from the greater Ravencoin community; at least, that is our hope for now.
With our increased membership due to political and economic crises in Nigeria currently, we want to offer more recreation for our members. In addition, one of the key skills to learn in cryptocurrency is how to send and receive assets, tokens, NFTs, etc. By playing games to win C0MM and NFTs, we are creating a vast laboratory where this can unfold. I can foresee 50-100 booths, all operating a variety of Discord gaming bots that already exist and that we potentially develop.
If you have a booth you would like to operate, please contact us, and we will make it happen. It will be fun!!!
Comm/DAO scores at the top of the chain yet again, with a record number of payouts from last week! Yay!
And we did have some great scores this week with another Fenn Phaser selling at auction, featuring a continuing collaboration with the real actress and star, Sherilyn Fenn! And also, 2 phenomenal pieces dropped from Evilra on the Carnival theme, which also sold! All pieces showed the unique functionality of the animated .gif, under the C0MM brand, a name gaining prowess for quality in the RVN NFT world. This has been another stellar week for Community DAO on this front.
This coming week we will also focus on filling out our Corral Collection with a plethora of new mints to go in that collection from our larger body of designers. In order to facilitate that, Evilra has stepped forward to assist in training new designers on best practices with AI generators in a “NFT-Art-Class-Workshop” Channel on our Discord.
We have a lot going on! Help!😆
All right, let’s hear from the rest of the community!
Best,
Dow
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When I was Arrested at Night
On my way back from work, where I had gone to shoot videos and take photos at an event, the organizer closed late. So, on my way home, I was stopped by a group of policemen and arrested along with other young guys. We were taken to the station where we wrote our statements, and they took my bag, which had my camera and phone inside.
To my surprise, our charges were "Inciting Violence" on the first day, and while we were in detention, the cell guard came for the regular attendance keeping. After she called our names, I asked to know my offense, and she showed me in the book where I saw "Conduct"...
The next day, some of the guys who had been there longer had positions of rank given to them by the chairman of the cell. Some of the prisoners were innocent of charges, and the watery beans they served for food were not healthy at all. The cell was congested, and there was no ventilation. I was angry.
The officer in charge, who was handling our case, called us out for another statement. After our conversation, we were charged with "Breach of Community Peace."
Now, my question is, "Don't we have the right to speak anymore? Aren't we supposed to air our opinions when it concerns us?" Let history vindicate the just.
The human rights authority system should be given a chance to look into every matter in prison, and inmates should be regarded as individuals. We all deserve to be heard, and not only the rich should be given a chance to speak.
However, my family came to the station and paid for my bail, which was supposed to be free, and I got my camera back.
"History will vindicate the just."
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My Love Life
Every year for the last 3 years, my girlfriend and I have done a reenactment of our "first date." We originally met on a playground field. My girlfriend had just moved to Brooks Street and was looking for new potential friends in the area. When she came across my Facebook profile, she added me and I accepted after looking at her page.
I noticed she was a dancer and actor, just like myself, and decided to send her a message. We discussed trying to know each other and from there, we got attached, and emotions started to show on both ends.
However, some days we played game for a while until finally, I gathered up the nerve to ask her to lunch.
We decided to meet at an open field play ground close to where she was living at the time. We ended up eating fried chicken and chips and talking for some hours, and the rest, as they say, is history.
Now every year, on the anniversary of our first date, I drop her off at the front of the same open field playground, and she goes inside to get us a table- just like she did the night we met. We attempt to sit in that same stand and even wear the exact same clothes we wore on our first date. Also, I brought my camera to take memorable pictures of that day.
The only difference over the years has been us growing together in love and understanding each other what we like and dislike.
Nigerian Universities on Break
Most of the headline news has been focused on why tertiary institutions should be on break for three weeks just to honor the electoral process, which is very much doubtful to be free and fair.
Well, I have lots of questions to ask, but not to the common men and women who could be addressed as the laymen on the streets.
The week was dry and tasteless for me since my target customers, on the basis of student marketers, were sent home by the Federal Government of Nigeria. This got me wandering in search of jobs that are outside the influence of students, but none of such jobs were in sight.
My wandering led me to take a picture of one of the busiest lanes in the University of Uyo Annex campus. The lane is currently dry and void of humans because the security agency in charge denied most people access to the entire campuses of the university.
I feel sorry for the young men and women whose means of livelihood are based on businesses running in the campuses nationwide.
Anyway, I was lucky to come across this lovely piece of art hoisted on the walls of one of the lecture halls.
I took some time to study the creative job and discovered that one of the legs is missing. I wonder if it was broken by observers or if it's just part of the style.
I hope for better days in Nigerian institutions and also pray for better leadership at the presidential level since it has the highest power over every other sector.
God bless Nigeria.
God bless humanity.
Lover’s Day
After Lover’s Day, I noticed the empty box of chocolate lying around and decided to make a change in not only my diet but also my fitness levels. I knew I wanted to tone up a little, but I didn't want to try and strain my muscles in the process. Normally I will work out about three days a week, but I decided to do this seven-day assessment and push myself physically. I wanted to see how many different areas I could target and switch up my routines. I kept an open mind and started with a clean slate. So the next day, Monday, February 15th, I began my workout plan.
On this day, I went for a steady jog on the walking path next to the Payne Center, completed two sets of twelve lunges, and finished with two sets of fifteen reps of high knees. I wanted to start simple and target more of my legs to slowly build up from there. On Tuesday, February 16th, I did more stomach (abs) related workouts laying down to let my legs rest. This day consisted of three sets of fifteen reps of crunches, two sets of ten pushups, and one thirty-second plank. I noticed my core getting tighter and a minor side cramp, but it was a sign I was making progress.
On the third day, I went to the gym to use the weights for my arms. I chose the ten-pound weights to start with. I did a few bicep curls, lateral raises, and shoulder presses. My arms weren't used to it, so I had to start slow and build up stamina. I took about a five-minute break in between to rest and drink some water to recuperate.
Our Month of Possibilities: March
The just concluded elections will forever remain a sacrifice. Oh, the sacrifice Nigerians made just to see a new Nigeria was beyond words. The opposition never saw this coming. The social media president, as he was termed with no structure whatsoever, blew their minds.
Nigerians would be willing to stay overnight without coercion to ensure their votes counted was an outright shock to many. This is what money couldn't buy, desperation for Freedom. These were not just the masses or the vulnerable, I'm sure you'd say they had no choice but I saw those who, with or without this win, could leave the shores of this country, continuing their lives.
They sacrificed their time, energy, and resources to ensure this election does count. Fathers of faith left staying on the fence. Social media influences came out to openly say their minds. What a time to be alive.
This election pushed aside every lazy and lame sentiment, bringing beautiful minds together. It got people thinking and talking and everyone genuinely desired the birthing of a new Nigeria. Amazing.
How do I know that the result isn't the people’s choice? The streets have been quiet. Social media groups, even church groups, have been inactive. Believe me, if our Principal, Mr. Peter Obi, was announced President, Church service would close at night because the sound of rejoicing wouldn't cease.
The streets of Nigeria would be flooded with Nigerians in sheer gratitude to God for Freedom at last. I wouldn't be surprised if the Boko Haram and the terrorist sect would just come out of their bushes unknowingly out of joy as well. I know this!
But I have faith! I am a man of faith! Our Principal isn't worried and so we shouldn't. Check his track record. He has always fought to the end and this God will complete what He has begun.
This election has shaken the hands of those who held this country captive. Now they know that we can be united irrespective of religion, tribe, ethnicity, etc.
I do believe that soon I will call my principal formally, GCFR. He is already a commander, a grand one at that, but I do await formal confirmation of this.
God bless my Principal
God bless Nigerians
God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
Celebrating My Dad's 70th Birthday
It was my dad's 70th birthday on Sunday, and we, the children, and some of his friends celebrated him at home, like a housewarming party.
We gave him a frame with a pair of shoes, and my brother gave him a cake with a wristwatch. We prayed for his longevity and for him to be even more successful.
At one point, we became so emotional and tears flowed from our eyes as we remembered all that our father has been through for us.
Let me praise my father with some lines
My father has been so caring that he provides for me even when he doesn't have enough, he still provides.
My father teaches us how to be positive and successful in life.
My father teaches us how to love because I have seen him love my mum in the good times and bad times.
A father’s love never shouts; it is rather felt.
A father’s sacrifice isn’t always there to be seen; it’s rather experienced.
A father’s care isn’t always loud; it is in the depth of his heart.
A father’s affection isn’t always a public affair; it is woven into all he does.
A father is one with the purest of hearts seeking no self glory but giving himself freely.
Thank you for reaching me. All it is to learn.
Thank you for leading, teaching, providing, protecting, influencing, guiding, and commanding.
Thank you.
Today and every other day, your sacrifice will be cherished and appreciated.
You are loved and respected every day and forever. Happy birthday Dad, my King from your baby girl.
The Nation is Glamouring About INEC Rigging the Election
Today, I was just so pained about the situation of the country and the future it holds for our upcoming generation.
You might think that election rigging is the only issue facing Nigeria, but we are going through a lot.
Even we as humans are making matters difficult in this country. We need to check ourselves well.
This is how I interpret rigging in my own view:
If you sleep with someone's husband, it is rigging.
If you keep a lady in a relationship and play with her emotions outside, it is rigging. It breaks her heart and makes her lose faith in love.
If you charge three thousand naira for a ten thousand naira transaction using POS, that is rigging.
Due to this, it is hard to have cash in hand because of the excess charges involved.
If you excessively increase prices without conscience, that is rigging. You need to consider how the economy is faring.
If people pay you to receive admission letters that are supposed to be free, that is rigging. You are not helping the community bring out the best from other children.
If you use false weights and balances to sell goods, that is rigging.
If you sit on people's files and promotions at the office, that is rigging.
If you break the hearts of faithful friendships, that is rigging.
In fact, if you are not happy about someone's success, that is rigging.
I hope you are not rigging someone in any way.
We hope for a better nation.
Traditional Marriage
I had that feeling of being closely related to both the bride and groom (but not by blood). I had been anticipating this marriage for too long, and it finally came to pass last weekend. Friday and Saturday were for my special and treasured friends. These two have been really amazing human beings. The world would indeed be a better place if only their kind existed.
What a coincidence because I never knew they would end up together. The bride, though older than me, has been my close friend since secondary school and my senior at that time. The groom, on the other hand, is my local assembly choirmaster, and he's really good at what he does. That grew my love for him.
I was so excited when she called and informed me about the marriage, even though they had been together for a long time. I jumped and screamed at the top of my voice, and to make it even more exciting, she requested that I be her maid of honor. Joy overflowed, and I kept all the accessories and attire ready because I was long ready for that news.
I arrived at the bride's village and compound, and everywhere was beautifully decorated. Gosh, the designs were beautiful. I headed to see the bride in the room where she was dressed since I went earlier than the start time. She wore a different look, and she looked really good. A few minutes later, the groom's family arrived, and they headed to the parlor for "udia Ibehe," which is the special local delicacy prepared by the bride's family to welcome their in-laws. Immediately after that, the groom arrived, and the live band did an excellent job, and we all conveyed the groom to his seat. Afterward, the bride was sent for. This is a memorable moment in every woman's life. I displayed my best dance step along with others as she headed to her husband, and the drone was busy capturing the whole event.
The MC was a comedian himself, and the groom took his bride to his parents as the culture demanded. Both were uniquely joined together in love and prayed for. It's a marriage I won't forget any time soon.
Mutual Intercession for My Woman
I dropped my woman off at work today and got home to freshen up. While in the shower, I felt a nudge to pray for my woman. I began to pray in the Holy Spirit for a moment and burst into prophetic declarations over her life, career, and ministry. I kept going until I had this release. First, it felt so good. It felt so good to pray for her, not just in her presence but also when she's not there to see it. It wasn't an act; it was a heartfelt and prompt response to God's leading.
So when she returns to tell me how favored her day has been, I smile. You know, nothing just happens. We call it forth! We call forth those things that be not, as though they were. She doesn't just win the battle; we conclude the matter in the realm of the spirit, receiving the victory with faith and thanksgiving. Hallelujah.
There are nights I wake up, and I see her hands on my head, and she is praying in tongues. I smile and go back to bed. The warrior in her is released. I don't wonder why there are open doors; I know! There is one at the gate calling forth my name into strange realms of wealth and abundance.
The place of intercession in a relationship isn't the job of just one party. When two people subscribe to the mantle of intercession in marriage, the difference will be clear. The victories won't be a coincidence. It will be a complete reflection of victories won in the realm of the spirit. This is Abbas matching orders: stay in the place of prayer this season. Not alone, but with your partner.
Dear worthy man,
Normalize having your wife speak over your life. She may not look the part of a prayer warrior, but the words she speaks go out with power. I have written about the priesthood of a wife; please read it. She hails from an altar so ancient and potent that even in her ignorance, her words should never be taken lightly.
Dear worthy woman,
Your husband is an extension of the priesthood of Jesus. He may not look the part; he may not pray and shake his head the way you'd expect, but the little burnt offering he offers will challenge the army at the gate. Your season can change overnight because a prophet spoke and commanded things to be.
In conclusion, the place of prayer in the success of any home can never be overemphasized. Intentionally covet the prayers of your partners. Do this often and see doors open.
Fun Day at Work
Hi guys, yesterday was really a happy and fun-filled day as I never expected it, but God made it happen. I went to work early as the manager to inspect some tools. Upon reaching the place, I discovered that I forgot my key, so I had to pay another transport fare to go back home to get the key. I finally got it and opened up shop, and as usual, my customers kept coming. Some were just there in the shop to chat, while others were playing games. All of a sudden, I heard a beautiful girl call my name, and I was so happy when I stood up and saw that it was my boss's daughter.
I was so happy to see my boss's daughter that I carried her and even bought her some snacks to welcome her. Later on, I received a call from my girlfriend, informing me that she would be celebrating her birthday in the evening. So, I had to work quickly and keep an eye on what other staff members were doing to avoid errors. As evening approached, I asked my boss for permission to leave, and it was granted. I went home, took a bath, and got dressed for the birthday celebration.
The birthday celebration was really interesting, and I made some new friends there. I was also happy to be among the people who celebrated my friend's birthday. We ate, drank, and later went home. I told my dad about the party, and he smiled and said that I love partying. We all laughed and retired to our rooms.
Thank you.
Dear Woman
You are not just a womb carrier; you are not just sex material.
You are not just a housekeeper or a house cleaner.
You are a life-giver, for the life of your generation lies in your hands.
You are the crown of a man. Even the future of your husband lies within you, "a wise woman builds her home..."
Woman, you are so important. That is why God called you a helper; He said you are a blessing. He sees that a man is incomplete; that is why he made you.
Don't envy, don't copy, and don't compete with anyone. Every head has its crown.
Time changes everything.
So don't allow anyone to make you feel less. For any relationship that doesn't respect your womanhood or believes the greatness in you, feel free to shake the dust off your feet and walk away.
YOU ARE GREATNESS ITSELF.
Happy International Women's Day😊😊
Happy International Women's Day to My Mother
Dear sugar mother,
I am grateful for everything you have done for me and I celebrate you today and always. You are my role model and my hero, the most amazing mother in the world. Thank you for teaching me to be strong, independent, and compassionate.
You have been my greatest source of inspiration. Thanks for all the love and care.
You had given me hope when I witnessed any failure. You had given me love and care when I felt dejected.
Angel mother. "We are born of love; Love is our mother." "When I look into your eyes, mama, I know that you are the purest love I can find on this earth." "A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.
Happy International Women's Day to all the strong, intelligent, talented, creative, and wonderful women out there. You're loved and you're valued. Happy International Women's Day! Today, we celebrate the strength and resilience of women all around the world. I have had the privilege of working with many amazing women who are builders in their own right. Whether they are building homes for their families, businesses for their communities, or relationships with their clients, women are the backbone of progress and growth. Keep building, keep creating, and keep inspiring us all!
I LOVE YOU MAMA
HAPPY INTERNATIONAl WOMEN'S DAY SHUGAR ❤️
Saying Thank You Is Not Enough
A few months ago, I was looking for a place to stay. I had contract work. It was going to take me close to two weeks.
So I was able to get a friend. When I got to his house, I met him and a lady (I suppose she is his fiancée). I was just meeting her for the very first time. She was very kind and loving, and she did not for once make me feel that I was a lady coming to her man's house.
The next day, I saw that she was fetching water. I quickly stood up, picked up a bucket, and joined her. She refused me. I told her to let me. She said no respectfully.
The tap wasn’t far, so I walked her to the tap and was “gisting.” Over there, I met my friend as he was fetching water while his fiancée was taking it home.
I joined them both in fetching the water and eventually carrying a few buckets home.
The wife was very grateful. Putting up the smile I didn’t see on her face since I arrived.
Another day, I was returning and I got everyone grilled chicken.
Throughout my stay, after every meal, I made sure to wash my plate. Something she told me every time not to. But I didn’t stop.
My bed was well rearranged after waking up every morning. None of my clothes were flying around. There was never a time my shoes or handbag were out of place.
When I was leaving, I gave her some money. She smiled sweetly at me and refused.
She said, “Do you have to leave now? Has your contract finished?”
I said, “yes, ma.” She almost didn't want me to leave.
She has called me three times since then to say hi. And we're now friends.
Yea! It’s important to learn to repay the kindness. That someone is kind does not mean you can take a ride on them.
Your kind of actions will show if you want to help them to be able to do the same another time.
You see a case where someone will help give a lift to another every single day to work, to and from, and it will never dawn on them to pinch 3k/5k and say, “Use for fuel.”
Saying thank you is not enough. Put the thank you into action.
~~~
Teju Rolex Global
Teju Rolex Global is where I work, and the aim and goal of this company is to assist you in processing your visa to travel abroad, whether for a tourist or business trip, and also give you an opportunity to participate in scholarship programs in Europe, which require at least 3 million nairas to be added up.
At Teju Rolex Global, we have lectures that can help you learn Spanish, German, French, and fluent English so that you won't face any difficulties in communicating and learning when you travel abroad.
Currently, we have around four students who are attending French classes. I spoke with some of them to ask about their experience in the class and what expectations they have when they travel abroad to study.
After each class and tutorial session, we issue certificates to our students for the duration of six months.
There are several reasons why you should study abroad if you have the opportunity. For example, you get to learn a new culture, language, and gain international experience. You also get to have a good travel history, grow and develop personally, and make friends from different parts of the world.
Moreover, when you study abroad in certain countries, you are allowed to work a part-time job and earn money to pay for some expenses.
At my workplace, Teju Rolex Global, we assist individuals in achieving their dream of studying abroad. I hope you make the choice to travel abroad someday and pursue your studies.
Beach with the Boys
It was a fun-filled public holiday, and my friends at the office and I were discussing what to do. Then, one of us suggested we should use the holiday for an outing. We all started suggesting locations, and Lukeman said we should go to the cinema to watch a movie. But Pelumi said no, we had been watching movies on Netflix, and we should go to Tarkwa Bay beach.
We all supported Pelumi's suggestion, so we decided to raise funds on how we were going to the beach. We all contributed 10 thousand each to get some items like drinks, small chops, food, and for mobility.
We got to Tarkwa Bay beach, which is known for an artificial sheltered beach located near the Lagos harbor in Nigeria. Due to its island status, it is only accessible by boat or water taxis. The beach is popular with swimmers and water-sports enthusiasts and also has a welcoming resident community.
We paid for a tent and sat down, dropping our food and drinks. We played different games like truth or dare, naming places and concerts.
Afterward, we went to feel the waves of the water and the salty taste of the sand. I was scared of climbing the horse, but Lukeman was up for it and even paddled the horse back and forth along the beach.
Overall, it was a very fun-filled holiday, well spent with my colleagues at work.
Life
While I was in the hospital last week, a mother died. After the CS, she was brought into the ward with oxygen. She had complications with the pregnancy. She died shortly after the surgery. She never got to see her baby boy. Never got to speak to the husband again. Never got to say goodbye to anyone. Her baby is so beautiful.
For the first time in my life, I saw a grown man break down. He wailed with deep sorrow. He couldn't be comforted. He didn't even want to see the baby at first. He held on tight to his wife's body. He could not get himself to get her to the morgue. When he got back to get her things, he couldn't touch any. He just pointed his people to it.
"We bought that baby bed together," he would say.
"She was so particular about that baby flask, that's her luggage, she packed it with so much excitement weeks ahead."
Every statement was laced with so much sorrow. I didn't know when tears dropped down my face. 😩
At the end of the day, a day or two later, he came back to the hospital to negotiate with its management to please keep and nurture the baby for three months pending when he's mentally ready to take his son.
She was a corper. A first-time mom. She wanted that baby. They waited for that baby.
Life is so fickle.
Hold on tight to your loved ones.
Don't fight over everything 😴
Human Hair
Today, I'll be talking about hair. Before you get a hair, you should know the type of hair you want and have a better understanding of its worth.
But for today, let's talk about human hair. I'll make it very simple for you.
The price of human hair depends on several things: the length, the type of human hair, and the kind of hair.
There are only THREE TYPES OF HUMAN HAIR, and I want to help you understand them in the simplest way.
Virgin Hair:
This is the highest level of hair because it has never been chemically treated or processed. That's to say, it is in its natural state. It's from one donor and the cuticles are in the same direction, which means little to no tangling. Prices are high, but it lasts longer.
Remy Hair:
It is from the same donor as virgin hair, but this one has been chemically treated for color or texture. The cuticles are in the same direction, too, which means little to no tangling. Prices are high (bone straight falls into this category).
Non-Remy Hair:
This one is comb waste, basically piles or remnants of hair when cutting hair from someone's head. It means it's from multiple donors, and the cuticles are not in the same direction (tangles easily). This is the one you'll get at a cheaper rate compared to the other two.
This is literally supposed to be the "low grade" of hair.
Any other terms you see people use to describe these three types of hair are used just for marketing. It’s either this, or it’s Synthetic or a Blend.
I hope I have explained everything clearly. Do you understand it now?
Happy International Women's Day
To the woman who has given too much.
To the woman who has no idea how she will keep going like this every day.
I see you.
I see how exhausted you are.
I see your desire to run for the hills without a care in the world.
And I know that if you did so,
the world which you have created
would collapse without you.
So, of course, that is not an option.
And I know just how oppressive the weight of that can be.
How suffocating it is.
How scary that feels sometimes.
And I also know how grateful you are for this load you carry.
For it’s everything you need and yet all that consumes you.
And that’s ok.
It is okay to feel weary, even when the weight is that of your blessings.
It is still heavy to carry.
There is no space for shame in that load of yours.
No space for guilt, no space for perfection.
Set those down.
Lighten your load of those things.
Next, take out the need to conform to others’ expectations.
And gather up all the past mistakes. And the worries for the future.
They can all go.
Lastly, the spaces you have just made should be filled with rest, for rest is very much doing.
And then add in your joy.
And whatever space is left, leave it there.
Ready for new things, which will show up as soon as they see their space waiting.
It’s high time
Governorship Election
Dear Akwaibomites, I've been reading a lot about "iwa" (fufu made from cassava) in the newspapers since yesterday, particularly concerning the Fathers of Faith.
I laughed so hard that I almost cried 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 when I read it.
Can you show me even one of these so-called Fathers of Faith who is a teacher and is currently teaching in either a primary or secondary school?
Can you show me one Father of Faith who is brave enough to tell both the past and present government that denying retired teachers their gratuity is a sin?
Can you show me a Father of Faith who has taken a stand against the poor state of our healthcare facilities in the state?
All they seem to be interested in is money. They go to the government, make noise, and pray, even though their prayers may not even pass through the roof. At the end of the day, they collect fat envelopes and go home, while we insult each other here online.
The 2023 Governorship Election isn't about which aspirant is a Pastor, Bishop, or renowned cultist, as you guys have labeled him. It's not about who is flying in and out every second.
What we really want is good governance. We want the best.
There's a lot that needs to be done and a lot that needs to be changed. So use your voters card wisely and vote.
Cut off unnecessary tasks.
Women in rural communities should have the right to bring and sell their goods without paying ₦10,000 to become a member of any union.
Our public schools must be revived because we now have a lot of private schools, and that is because our public schools are not functioning.
The healthcare system in our state should be the top priority of the government.
Building Noah's ark while people are hungry is a big no for me.
Create job opportunities for the youth.
Local government autonomy should be implemented.
Akwabomites, go out and vote for the right governor of Akwa Ibom state.
Serving My Country
Lovely day to everyone. Today, I wanted to write about my experience serving my country, as it is required after completing tertiary education. I was finally posted to Ekiti, a state in the western part of Nigeria. At first, I felt bad because it was far from home, but I later gathered the courage to go through with it.
On that fateful day, we left very early in the morning, and upon arrival, we were tested before receiving our uniforms. I was really happy to have made it safely, as the journey was quite stressful.
During my service year, I met people from different tribes, with different cultural backgrounds and courses of study. I also encountered people of different religions. Adapting wasn't difficult, but it required effort. We were drilled daily by the military for 21 days to prepare us for the tasks ahead. I even made friends with one of the military commanders who always enjoyed having me lead the parade. I must say, I enjoyed everything about my service year, including the CDs, the food, and my new roommate. Overall, it was a fantastic experience to serve my country with all my strength.
My Audition
On a Saturday morning, I got a call from my friend that is into the movie industry. He called and said there is an audition going on to get cast that is going to feature in an epic movie.
I was really happy and told him, yes, I would be able to come for the audition. At one point, I was anxious and scared. What am I going to do? What if I am not selected?
On the day of the audition, which was on Monday, I found it hard to locate the venue because it was an interior village.
I met my friend, and he encouraged me. I should not be scared, and I should bring up my very best performance because other people too are looking for the same role.
Then later, the director of the movie gave us a summary of the movie, which was about a girl named Amaka who has powers but uses them in a negative way to torment men and recruits other young girls in the community to despise men.
I was called to act in the role of Amaka. Then, I was given the stage to act with a Calabash. I dropped my lines so well that the director selected me for the movie.
I couldn't believe it was true until my friend confirmed it. I was so happy and had to call my mum to tell her the good news that her baby girl would be on the TV screen soon.
Customers are Always Right
"The customer is always right" is a motto or slogan which exhorts service staff to give a high priority to customer satisfaction.
“The customer is always right” is an instructive saying that directs those dealing with the public to make customer satisfaction one of their highest priorities. This can be difficult when a customer has an issue with your organization and truly believes they are right. In dealing with my customers, I'm always empathetic: I let my customers know I value their opinion. I also get acquainted with my customers' journey to understand why they do what they do. Identify the opportunities so you may overcome any existing challenges.
My customers are my friends. I choose designs for them, attend their occasions, and become their "tailor" even during disagreements. I listen to their opinion and let them know that I'm always at their service. During busy weeks like this, I stay in my shop working for my customer's satisfaction.
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Wedding Bells
Looking good is good business. Whether it's work or school, I always make sure to look good and wear nice outfits so that I won't look odd. This week, I attended my customer's traditional marriage at Igbo-Etche. Good news is that the groom was just a customer who became a very good friend of mine over the years, and suddenly, he's getting into a blissful union.
I wore a self-sewn jacket, a white polo to compliment my black jeans and white sneakers. On arriving at the occasion, a beautiful female usher welcomed me to a nice seat in front. But I wasn't comfortable, so I moved out after a couple of minutes to the outside arena where I met my fellow friends and colleagues. At the end of the day, we presented our gifts to Goodnews.
We waited for the "item-6," and our expectations weren't cut short. Item-6 is a very popular slang used to describe drinks and food in any occasion. Once the item-6 was served, we ate various dishes from white soup to porridge plantain to our satisfaction before bidding farewell to ourselves as we parted to our various homes. On my way home, I felt a bit lonely, and I think it's time for me to get ready for marriage too.
Movie Dump for the Week
As a movie enthusiast, I decided to take some time to do a countdown of some Nollywood movies that I've watched and some that are worth the hype. Here are some of the movies I've seen and think are a good watch:
When are we getting married; 8/10
If you're a fan of Ric Hassani's music, you'll definitely like him in this movie. He did so well! It's relatable, and I learned a lot from it. I love the chemistry between the two main characters; it looked so real 😩. You can find it on YouTube.
Selina; 8/10
I used one night to finish all three parts of this movie. It's hilarious, and Etim and Bimbo make a great duo. The way Etim was supportive was heartwarming. Oh, and Selina's friend was amazing too. You can also find it on YouTube.
Shanty Town
I heard some people bashing this movie, but I thought it was good - 7/10 for me. I loved the storyline, but some scenes were dragged out for too long and unnecessary. Ini, Nse, and Chidi did a great job! But how did Mercy send that voice note to Nancy abeg? 😹. That's why I gave it 7 😏.
Brotherhood: 9/10 👀
This movie was amazing! The actors were great, the storyline was captivating, and the fight scenes were well done. Toni Tones, OC Ukeje, Tobi, Falz, and Omawunmi delivered their roles so well.
The Devil You Know: 9/10
That's very true, the devil is truly within, but sometimes we might be pointing fingers at the wrong "within." I loved the movie and how the families were supportive, but I hated the fact that he was still too kind to his brother even after all he had done.
Which of these movies have you seen? You might want to clear your head by watching some.
Traditional Rulers in Nigeria's Major Ethnic Groups
Nigeria is a multi-ethnic country with over 250 ethnic groups, each with its own unique customs, traditions, and beliefs. Traditional rulers play a crucial role in the social and political life of many of these ethnic groups, serving as the custodians of their cultural heritage and values.
In this article, we will take a look at the traditional rulers of some of the major ethnic groups in Nigeria.
Yoruba
The Yoruba people are one of the largest ethnic groups in Nigeria, and they have a rich and vibrant cultural heritage. The traditional rulers of the Yoruba people are known as Oba, which means king or ruler.
The Oba of Lagos is one of the most prominent traditional rulers in Yoruba land, and he is considered to be the overall ruler of Lagos state. Other important Obas in Yoruba land include the Ooni of Ife, the Alake of Egba, the Oba of Benin, and the Alaafin of Oyo.
Hausa/Fulani
The Hausa/Fulani people are the largest ethnic group in northern Nigeria, and they are known for their Islamic faith and rich cultural heritage. The traditional rulers of the Hausa/Fulani people are known as Emirs, and they are highly respected and revered by their people.
The Emir of Kano is one of the most prominent traditional rulers in Hausa land, and he is considered to be the overall ruler of Kano state. Other important Emirs in Hausa land include the Emir of Zazzau, the Emir of Gwandu, and the Emir of Bauchi.
Igbo
The Igbo people are one of the largest ethnic groups in Nigeria, and they are known for their entrepreneurial spirit and rich cultural heritage. The traditional rulers of the Igbo people are known as Igwe, and they are highly respected and revered by their people.
The Obi of Onitsha is one of the most prominent traditional rulers in Igbo land, and he is considered to be the overall ruler of Onitsha kingdom. Other important Igwes in Igbo land include the Igwe of Nri, the Igwe of Abiriba, and the Eze Nri.
Edo
The Edo people are one of the major ethnic groups in Nigeria, and they are known for their rich cultural heritage and traditional practices. The traditional rulers of the Edo people are known as Oba, and they are highly respected and revered by their people.
The Oba of Benin is one of the most prominent traditional rulers in Edo land, and he is considered to be the overall ruler of the Benin kingdom. Other important Obas in Edo land include the Oba of Auchi, the Oba of Irrua, and the Oba of Uselu.
The traditional rulers play a crucial role in the social and political life of many of Nigeria's ethnic groups. They serve as the custodians of their cultural heritage and values, and they are highly respected and revered by their people. The traditional rulers of Nigeria are an important part of the country's cultural diversity and heritage, and they continue to play an important role in shaping its future.
My First Experience in School
The first day of school was a completely new experience for me. This is because each child is completely different. You always stay in the comfort and safety of your own home.
But the first day of school opens the door to unknown experiences and opportunities. Like any child, the first day was scary. I distinctly remember holding my mother's hand as she hesitated to enter the classroom.
On the first day, she excitedly put on her uniform for the first time. The feeling it gave me was unforgettable, and I will never forget it. Since it was the first day, my parents came to pick me up.
I remember seeing a classroom full of small children. Some were crying while others were playing. I looked at my mother and made a face that I didn't want her to leave. They had to leave, so I kept crying, but eventually, the teacher comforted me.
The Legacy of King Jaja of Opobo in Nigeria
King Jaja of Opobo was a prominent Nigerian ruler in the late 19th century who left a lasting legacy in Nigeria. He was born in 1821 in a small fishing village in the Niger Delta region, but he rose to become a successful businessman and a powerful political leader.
Jaja's rise to power began when he became a wealthy trader in the palm oil industry, which was a major economic activity in the Niger Delta at the time. He soon became the head of his trading company, and he used his wealth and influence to gain political power in the region.
In 1870, Jaja founded the city-state of Opobo, which became a major center of trade and commerce in the Niger Delta. He established a strong political and economic system in Opobo, which included a central government and a system of taxation.
Jaja's success as a ruler and businessman attracted the attention of the British, who were expanding their influence in Nigeria at the time. In 1884, the British government declared Opobo a protectorate of the British Empire, and Jaja was arrested and exiled to the West Indies.
Despite his exile, Jaja's legacy continued in Nigeria. His rule in Opobo had a profound impact on the Niger Delta region, and his business and political practices set a standard for future generations of Nigerian leaders.
Jaja's legacy can be seen in many areas of Nigerian life today. His emphasis on trade and commerce helped to establish Nigeria as a major economic power in West Africa, and his political system provided a model for the modern Nigerian state.
Jaja's leadership also inspired a sense of pride and nationalism among the people of the Niger Delta. His resistance to British colonial rule made him a symbol of Nigerian resistance to imperialism, and his legacy has been celebrated by generations of Nigerians.
Today, Jaja is remembered as one of Nigeria's greatest leaders and a symbol of the country's rich cultural and political heritage. His legacy serves as a reminder of the importance of strong leadership, entrepreneurship, and cultural preservation in Nigerian society.
Major Carnivals in Nigeria
Nigeria is a country with a rich cultural heritage, and one of the ways this heritage is celebrated is through carnivals. Carnivals in Nigeria are colorful events where people dress up in costumes, dance, and celebrate their cultural traditions. Here are some of the major carnivals in Nigeria:
Calabar Carnival: The Calabar Carnival is one of the biggest and most popular carnivals in Nigeria. It takes place every year in December and features parades, music, and dance performances. The carnival attracts visitors from all over Nigeria and other parts of the world.
Lagos Carnival: The Lagos Carnival is held every year in April and is a celebration of the rich culture and diversity of Lagos State. The carnival features colorful displays of traditional costumes, music, and dance.
Eyo Festival: The Eyo Festival is a traditional festival that takes place in Lagos. It is a celebration of the ancestors and features a procession of people dressed in white robes and colorful hats. The festival is held to honor the memory of important Lagos chiefs and to cleanse the city of evil spirits.
Osun-Osogbo Festival: The Osun-Osogbo Festival is a traditional festival held in Osun State. It is a celebration of the Osun River goddess and features colorful parades, music, and dance performances.
Abuja Carnival: The Abuja Carnival is held every year in November and is a celebration of Nigeria's unity in diversity. The carnival features cultural displays, music, and dance performances from different parts of Nigeria.
Argungu Fishing Festival: The Argungu Fishing Festival is a cultural festival held in Kebbi State. The festival features a fishing competition, music, and dance performances.
Ofala Festival: The Ofala Festival is a traditional festival held in Anambra State. It is a celebration of the Obi (king) and features cultural displays, music, and dance performances.
Nigeria is a country with a rich cultural heritage, and the carnivals and festivals held across the country are a reflection of this heritage. These events not only celebrate Nigeria's culture and diversity, but also bring people together in a spirit of unity and harmony.
My Fulfilled Life on Earth
As I reflect back on my fulfilled life on Earth, I can't help but feel a sense of contentment and gratitude for all that I have experienced and accomplished. From the people I have met to the places I have traveled, my life has been filled with adventure, love, and purpose.
One of the defining moments of my life came early on, when I discovered my passion for writing. It was through this medium that I found my voice and began to express my thoughts and ideas in a way that resonated with others. Over time, I honed my skills and became an accomplished writer, publishing several books and articles that inspired, entertained, and informed readers around the world.
But writing was just one aspect of my life's journey. I also found fulfillment in my relationships with family and friends, who provided me with love, support, and companionship through the ups and downs of life. I was blessed to have a partner who shared my values and ambitions, and together we built a life that was both fulfilling and meaningful.
In addition to my personal pursuits, I also dedicated myself to making a difference in the world. Whether it was through volunteering, activism, or philanthropy, I sought to use my talents and resources to help others and make the world a better place. Through these efforts, I was able to leave a positive impact on the people and communities around me and create a legacy that will endure long after I am gone.
Looking back on my life, I am struck by how much I was able to accomplish through hard work, perseverance, and a commitment to living with purpose. While there were certainly challenges and setbacks along the way, I always remained focused on my goals and never lost sight of the things that truly mattered to me.
As I approach the end of my journey on this earth, I am at peace knowing that I have lived a life that was full of love, joy, and purpose. I am grateful for all the experiences that have shaped me and for the people who have touched my life in so many meaningful ways. And as I prepare to take my final breath, I do so with a heart full of gratitude and a deep sense of fulfillment, knowing that I have lived a life that was truly well-lived.
One Time Model
Today feels special as my friend Sandra texted me, asking for the opportunity to make me her model. I didn't hesitate to say yes. Months ago, Sandra had been telling me that I'm pretty enough to be a makeup model. At the time, I had my doubts, but today I conquered them all.
I arrived at the model center at midday, where I was given the opportunity to select a nice gele (headtie). Gele is essentially a type of head tie worn by women in the Western African country of Nigeria. It's different from the normal head tie but more attractive.
I saw a variety of face products, including a wide range of foundations, concealers, quality setting powder, a highlight and contour kit, and a range of blushes. Sandra wiped my face with face wipes before the "makeup process" began. I sat down patiently for about two hours, wondering how I would look at the end of the process. I was nervous as I glanced at my reflection in the mirror, but I was pleasantly surprised by the very beautiful version of myself that I saw.
The photographers arrived minutes later to take pictures of me in various outfits, and I posed with a charming smile. I kept blushing as many compliments were showered on me, and I felt like a little fairy princess. One thing is certain, this won't be my last modeling experience.
My Mother’s Birthday
Hello, I am very happy today because it's a special day for someone I adore and love so much, and that person is my mom. She is one person in life that I don't joke or take for granted. My mother has been a great help to me, especially when I was born. She was the head of the family because my dad had a sickness that made him unable to provide for us.
I really love her because she is always there when I have issues or feel depressed.
My mom is not only important to me, but she's also been instrumental in building my spiritual life. She has given me invaluable advice that has helped me go far in life. I fondly refer to her as Mama because of the special bond we share.
Mama has made me a happy person because when I remember all she did for me to reach this level, it pleases me. Even my dad is always happy because good girls are hard to find, but he was lucky to find my mom who has been with him through good and bad times. That's why I'm taking today to celebrate her on this special day and wish her the very best in life on behalf of all my siblings.
My Life In Steps
Early Childhood
I hated school from the moment I entered kindergarten. My memory of my first day as a student was marked by the negative emotions I felt on that day. My father had promised to stay with me, but he left as soon as I became distracted. Although I am sure this is a common occurrence on the first day of school for children, I viewed this as the first truly negative experience in my development as a student and perhaps a sign of my insecure attachment to my parents. As I pondered how this may have affected my attitude in the future, I realized that even after I became accustomed to attending school, I always looked forward to my days off, as I only had to attend kindergarten three times per week. When my older brother had to go to school, and I was allowed to stay home, I recall feeling a mixture of happiness and relief. I never understood why my classmates disliked being absent from school due to illness, as it was always something I looked forward to.
Your world makes sense to you as a child. I was oblivious to the existence of any other world, and as a result, I did not realize that we were poor and malnourished. My typical breakfast, for instance, consisted of bologna as the primary source of nutrition. I returned home to an empty house and ate fast food instead of a home-cooked meal. This is not a result of poor parenting but rather of financial constraints. As children, my brother and I faced this obstacle because we were frequently hungry or exhausted at school. It is safe to say that a child with bologna in his system will be at a disadvantage relative to his classmates when attempting to concentrate and focus on schoolwork.
Adolescence
Instability at home was another aspect of my childhood that I did not fully process at the time, but which I now believe had a significant impact on my growth and development. Our house burned down when I was 13 years old, turning our world upside down. While our house was being repaired for more than a year, we lived in various locations. When necessary, we stayed in hotels, with family, and in the family car. This issue was only temporary, but it was difficult and had a significant impact on my ability to concentrate on schoolwork or anything else.
The benefit of my negative adolescent experiences was that when I was fortunate enough to have exceptional teachers, they stood out all the more. Different and highly effective classroom management styles were implemented by a handful of exceptional teachers, who tailored their approach to my and their other students' individual strengths. Through scaffolding and modeling, my fourth-grade teacher tapped into my artistic interests by teaching us to play the piano. I excelled at it. Despite the fact that my eighth-grade teacher was a saint, I can now see that I had clear issues with emotion regulation. I had extroverted tendencies, acted on impulse, and was extremely disruptive in class. Fortunately, my teacher was very effective and persistent, constantly praising my intelligence and capability and pushing me to my limits. These two teachers utilized Vygotsky's zone of proximal development, constantly pushing and challenging me to acquire new skills. My eighth-grade teacher established a personal connection with me because she took the time to get to know her students. I view these two exceptional instructors as significant contributors to my growth and development. Because of them, I gained confidence in my creativity and ability to write and articulate ideas. Although this confidence remained dormant for many years, the seeds were planted, and I owe them for what I went on to achieve in the future.
Despite the now-obvious risk factors in my life, a significant event occurred during my eighth-grade year. I grew up in the extremely gang-ridden and dangerous neighborhood of east Salinas. My schools were the ones where these gangs were the most prominent and prevalent. I was surrounded by students who adopted this way of life, but I failed to recognize the dangers. I was young, and I did not consider these individuals to be dangerous gangsters. It was likely that I would fall in with that group, but I was fortunate to have great protective assets at this stage in my life. My older brother and cousins had a significant impact on my life. Due in large part to their influence, I became enamored with playing sports and made them my primary focus. They were also responsible for guiding me away from my life's risk factors, for which I am extremely grateful. Upon reflection, I realize I would have followed in their footsteps regardless of their actions. If they had joined a gang, I would have done so as well. Fortunately, my strong protective assets prevented me from following that path.
Emerging Adolescence
Later in life, I became entrapped in a job I detested, one that lacked respect for its hardworking employees and customers. This job was at a bank, where I frequently interacted with people from all walks of life and conversed with them at length about their educational and financial backgrounds. Many of them were college graduates with successful careers. As a result of these conversations, I concluded that their careers and lives were superior to mine. By conversing with them, I also realized that they were frequently no more articulate or intellectually impressive than I was. This dispelled the notion that I was somehow inferior or incapable of producing competent college-level work. Once I realized that going to college and being ambitious were not unattainable mystical concepts, I was able to overcome this very large obstacle. I quit my job because I realized I could do more with my life, have more autonomy, and contribute to society rather than deplete it, as my bank job did.
I always suspected that certain teachers and counselors along the way exhibited different treatment and attitudes. Unfortunately, the history of career counseling lacks a strong commitment to sensitivity to client diversity. Due to my inability to concentrate on subjects that did not interest me, I was regarded as a lost cause. I was not a misbehaving child; I mostly kept to myself and drew pictures instead of doing my homework. Nonetheless, negative stereotyping occurred, particularly in high school and junior college. When I was falling behind, my high school counselor neither took an interest in me nor provided me with assistance. I was instead assigned to an alternative school. During my first year of community college, a professor advised me to drop out. When I met with a college counselor, he displayed a very indifferent demeanor and pressured me to disclose my intended major, which made me feel embarrassed for not knowing what I wanted to do. This meeting left me so humiliated and perplexed that I immediately left and decided that school was not for me.
Adulthood
When I returned to enroll in community college many years later, I was determined but utterly insecure. I vowed to work on every assignment to ensure that if I were to fail, it would not be for lack of effort. I gave myself a week; if I performed well, I would remain in college; if I performed poorly, I would accept the fact that I was incapable of performing at the college level and drop out. I worked harder than ever before during the first week of school because I desired an official assessment of my academic ability. Fortunately, I discovered a genuine interest in academics for the first time as a result of all this effort. I enjoyed all of the subjects I was studying, sociology in particular. That first week, I received excellent feedback, and from that point forward, my confidence was greater than it had ever been, and my resolve to change my life through academics was set in stone.
I was fortunate to have excellent counselors and professors who assisted me in determining my inventories of interests, needs, and values, as well as how my personality type would mesh with particular academic majors. Both majoring in sociology and attending a prestigious university like UC Davis were important turning points in my life. I fell in love with the environment and was inspired by the professors and counselors who went above and beyond to assist and guide me. They motivated me, and I resolved to spend the rest of my life in this type of environment. Thus, choosing a career in counseling was the obvious choice for me, as it would be a stark contrast to previous jobs that lacked inspiration or respect.
Conclusion
One of the most important things I have learned about my development in this course is that my development was more interrupted than I realized before entering this course and being forced to consider it. As stated previously, I experienced the journey as a normal occurrence. I was accustomed to returning to an empty house as an elementary school student and preparing almost nutritionally worthless junk food for myself. Also, the fact that I was friends with gang-affiliated children and that my parents warned me against visiting their homes did not fully register with me at the time; they were simply good children and friends to me. The regularity of my interruptions stands out. Poverty and avoiding eye contact with strangers because I was taught to fear for my life were the norm. The disruption of this "normalcy" did not hit me until I was a young adult and realized that my peers were getting great jobs and attending college. Once I realized this, I was able to normalize and make tangible the process of attending college and obtaining a better job for myself.
Losing a True Friend
A TRUE FRIEND: A true friend is someone you can rely on when you need it. They treat you with respect, and being around them makes you feel good. They have your best interest at heart. You feel comfortable being yourself with them, and you can trust them.
👆This is what you mean to me
Friendship breakups are so hard because I don't get the same permission to process grief around a friendship. I struggle to reconcile how I feel toward the loss with how society says I should feel.
Losing someone I love is the hardest thing in the world to deal with. Itʼs a kind of pain that I physically feel all over my body. Itʼs suffering of the worst kind. To make things even worse, it seems like no one else understands how I'm feeling.
Losing a close friend can be even more painful than a romantic breakup. It is possible to heal from the loss; as you work through the pain, you’ll become even stronger.
I've heard that friendships are like seasons: they come and go. And while they assert this with all the profound wisdom of a cross stitch quote, it denies friendships’ much more complex nature.
If you’ve gone through a friendship breakup, you know it hurts more than the inevitable passing of the seasons. You may feel broadsided by the loss, even if it has been culminating over months or even years. But why do friendships end? Some of the reasons include:
Change of interests and values (moving, getting married, political views, religious views)
Misunderstandings
Breach of trust
When one person feels unsupported
Clashes with the partner of a friend
Attraction to the partner of a friend
Abusive behavior
I may face self-doubt about moving on from my friend, so I take time to determine whether this is the right decision. Sometimes, I can save a friendship by investing more in the relationship. But, there has to be a balance between fighting for the person I care about and not tolerating harmful behavior.
Loss stirs up complex emotions, including anger, frustration, sadness, confusion, and regret. It can also leave me with some unanswered questions, especially when the loss came about not from death, but from a choice my friend made that I couldn't accept.
I'm the only one who can decide to move on or remain in the friendship, but here are some questions to help me think clearly.
Has there been a betrayal? If so, has my friend made any attempt to make it right?
Is this just a misunderstanding?
Have I taken steps to talk about how I feel with my friend?
Is my friend toxic? Are they taking any steps to become a healthier person?
Is my friend repeatedly hurting me even though I’ve talked to them about their behavior?
Do I feel judged or belittled by my friend?
Does my friend hold me back or help me become a better person?
Is this disagreement something we can overcome, or will it only cause more harm in the long run?
I've been pondering on so many things lately, and my thoughts keep fighting me. I loved what we had - a true friendship without compromise, a brother I could always rely on. But losing you this way breaks my heart, and I've been trying to smile even when it's not necessary. Deep down, I know I've lost my friend, and it hurts.
One question that keeps ringing in my mind is how can I get the one person I love so much back? But I don't know how, and that only makes my heart bleed even more.
I've experienced abandonment in the past, and losing my friend has brought up those feelings of abandonment. Often, current pain is complicated because it connects to past pain.
I've come to love you and your wife dearly. It's been a long time since I've experienced peace like this among friends, but you and your wife brought back that joy, and I was super excited. I don't want to lose my true friend because of anything, and I hope we can find a way to get through this together.
I DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOU MY FRIEND
Doing the Lord's Work
Hi guys, happy weekend! I hope you all had a good week. Today, I want to share about my work as a minister of the Lord. On this faithful day, we went out on evangelism on Friday to bring people closer to God, and I was appointed as the preacher.
Before Friday, I had to prepare what I would be preaching and the songs I would be singing during the ministration. I also planned where we would be preaching, so after the planning, my team and I met in church, prayed together before leaving for a nearby village.
When we arrived there, we greeted the community leaders and informed them about what we wanted to do, and they gave us their approval. After that, we went into the streets and started preaching the word of God. We also reminded them that God loves them.
I was overjoyed that I was able to convert so many people to Christ and I even got some of their phone numbers so that I can keep in touch with them and check on how they are doing. It was truly a wonderful experience. I was also glad that I had the courage to stand in front of people and preach the Gospel of Christ. After that, we returned to the church, prayed, and thanked God for the safe journey before heading back home.
My Sister’s Wedding
It was a joyful day as my second sister was about to tie the knot with her fiancé after dating for two years. I was thrilled to have been present when he proposed to my sister and she said yes. After that, he came home and all the necessary arrangements were made. Finally, the traditional marriage ceremony was held yesterday. We made sure to prepare well for our visitors and family friends. We were all so excited that my dad decided to kill one of his cows for the occasion.
A picture of me(L), my second sister (M)and my first sister.
I was so happy to assist with the food preparation and cleaning of the house and surrounding areas. After everything was ready, we went to the venue and the event began. It was a joyous day for everyone, and the marriage was blessed. Now that both of my sisters are married, my mother started advising me to pray and ask God for a better man for myself.
Marriage is truly a thing of joy. I have seen instances where people date for many years and then split up, but it was a great feeling to personally witness this friendship grow into a marriage. During the occasion, my father also took the opportunity to advise my sister on how to handle her home with care as a woman. He encouraged her to be calm and to try to make peace in the family. My sister's wedding was one of the best days of my life, and I will truly miss her now that she is married.
Paint Production
When I am involved in paint production, my focus is on providing high-quality products. The process starts with the selection of the right ingredients and process parameters in order to deliver the desired properties to the paint. To ensure quality, I will often double-check the measurements of the ingredients and assess the consistency of the mixture before adding any additional components.
I also inspect the finished product to ensure that it meets all quality requirements. I pay close attention to the paint's coverage, color, and other characteristics. If any issues arise during the inspection, I will take the necessary corrective actions to ensure that the paint is fit for its intended use. I take great pride in my work when producing paint. My goal is to deliver a high-quality product that meets all the required standards.
I am determined to make sure that the paint provides the best performance and durability possible. Painting has been a true passion of mine, and I have found it to be very rewarding and enjoyable. It has allowed me to explore my creativity and express my ideas in a way that is truly unique. I would not trade my life as a painter for anything.
The Pains from an Accident
I was involved in a car accident recently, and the experience was incredibly traumatic. Despite being relatively minor, the physical and emotional pain I experienced was far from minor.
The physical pain was intense. I had bruises and scratches all over my body, and my head was pounding from the force of impact. My arms were sore from being thrown around inside the car, and my neck and back were stiff from the whiplash of the accident. The hardest part of the physical pain was the uncertainty of it. I didn’t know how serious my injuries were or how long it would take for them to heal.
The emotional pain was even more intense. I felt scared and vulnerable in the moments after the accident, and I was overwhelmed by the thought of facing so many unknowns. I was worried about the other driver, and I felt guilty for being the cause of the accident.
Ambassador Report
There is no doubt that making a difference and seeing significant results requires a group of individuals. Our marketing team has proven to be among the best teams in the entire Ravencoin blockchain, and we will continue to show the world our talent through our designs, weekly updates, and engagement on posts related to Ravencoin blockchain on Twitter, Discord, and other prestigious social media platforms.
Although we may be small, I say this: "Do not doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed persons can make a great impact in the crypto ecosystem." We encourage you to join us as we continue to represent the moving train of CommDAO. If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.
The success story of CommDAO marketing team is not a single book but an entire library. During the week, we received lots of great designs submitted for assessment, and they will soon be minted as NFTs. These engagements were recorded and processed into tables, as presented in the Leaderboard week 54 below.